Let’s faced it, sometimes, we are comparing ourselves with others. For what reason? Maybe because you don’t feel enough with yourself, or you want to be like somebody else. It will sound harsh but comparing your life with others makes it even worse.
While you live in this world and think that you had the unluckiest day of your life, either it is a money problem or being jobless, and sometimes feel giving up on your life, but comparing yourself brings all kind of negative vibes that actually destroy your self-esteem.
But, the thing is your not alone.
Most people had gone through that process and even today still working on how to be a better person. It can’t be deniable that we as a human being always faced a lot of problem in life. And even though we’ve gone through that process, we all had stories lies within ourselves.
But, it’s not the best resolution to keep comparing our life with others.
The more you compare your life with others, the more you became depressed. Sometimes, it’s a good thing if you make the comparison to motivate you. Such as, you got a lower result in your exam compare to your friend, but you took that as a challenge to improve yourself.
However, some people take the comparison too seriously in their life until, at one point, they became so depressed with what they can’t achieve compare to another person.
Comparing your life with others can be gruesome, it takes your joyful, and leads you to sadness.
So, what should we do to not comparing ourselves with others?
Here’s the truth, the older you get, the more you realize that everyone had their own struggle in life.
And when you see on the bright side, your not the only one with a bigger problems.
Reason for not comparing yourself with others:
We can start from any reason for choosing to not comparing ourselves with others. But the main thing is, it all starts with ourselves, how we choose to not being in that position of comparing with others.
First thing first, you have to realize that it’s not okay to compare your chapter 1 with someone else chapter 10.
We might think that our life is not perfect, and YES! We all are not perfect but that was not a strong reason to compare our life with others. Of course, we do get jealous a little bit because someone had a better life compared to us.
But, those people might have a story to reach on where they are right now. We only see the good thing coming out from the result of their pain but we might not know what they have been through throughout their journey.
Therefore, we should not simply compare our life with anybody because we don’t know what they have been going through.
1) Everyone had their own story
As I said, we don’t know what that person has been through to get where they are right now. We might get jealous of their success in life or whatever achievement they get. But, the pain they have been going through, all of the ups and down emotional or any other reason might not be their best memories. The joy of their tears, their hard work or any gruesome story, we do not know about it. So, stop comparing your life with others, you have your own story, and others had their own.
2) Trust on the process
In relation to comparison, it will be so stressful because we can’t be like the person we idolize. Because of that failure, we want to give up on our journey just because we can’t achieve the most things we wanted in life. Well, if you want to be the person you idolize, then stop comparing your life with them, they have a different story, you have to make your own story too. But sometimes, it will be so hard, it will be so painful, but whenever you fall, rise up again, and don’t give up, you should trust in the process instead of giving up early.
3) You already have everything
Why I have to say this? Because it’s true. You might don’t have anything such as money, a big house, cool life, and others. Well, let’s stop for a moment to talk about the materialistic thing. Just talk about yourself, you are breathing, you are walking and talking, and most of all, you are alive. That the greatest gift above all. Although the reality is you have to keep moving on with your life, let’s not forget the important thing is to love yourself. When you love yourself, your tendency to compare yourself with others is lower because you already being grateful for what you have.
4) You have your own timeline
Having a story and having your own timeline is two different things. Some people work as a teacher, an educator, a stylist, an engineer, a famous person or anything. One of the reason because they choose and work hard to be where they are today. If you choose to study, then go for it, if you choose to be a doctor, then work hard for it. We have a different story, for instance, our family background, our school memories or any sort of thing, but we do have our own timeline. Some people being successful in their 20’s, some are in the ’30s and some even in the ’50s. You just have to work hard on it, and never lose hope. If others can make it, you can make it too, no matter how long the process will take.
5) Nobody is perfect
If you looking for a perfect life, there is no. Well, maybe there is but who knows about the truth, right? We can’t find perfect things with comparing with others. Regardless of what occasion you are comparing your life with others, they might have tiny things that we called nobody is perfect. Take a step to being grateful instead of keep compare and eventually make your life difficult. Stop chasing what others want in their life and start focusing on your own life.
- Don’t compare your chapter 1 with someone else chapter 10.
- You have your own story, create your own story.
- Everyone has been going through a lot, don’t compare your life with anyone.
- If others can make it, you can too.
- Stop chasing what others want in their life and start focus on your life.
- Comparison is a thief of joy, so stop compare your life with others.